by Deborah J Block, Certified Etiquette Coach
Manners can be taught at an early age if you stick to these basic concepts:
- Say Please. This shows consideration for others.
- Say Thank you. This shows appreciation and gratitude.
- Look people in the eye. This shows respect for others.
- Apologize. This shows empathy and that you are accountable for your actions.
- Smile and have a good attitude. This makes everything better for yourself and others.
- Ask questions of others. This shows interest in others' ideas and feelings.
- Say excuse me. This shows consideration for others.
- Compliment others. This make other people feel good.
- The true meaning of etiquette is always to show respect and kindness to everyone around you.
- Use please, thank you, and excuse me every day.
- How to hold your silverware correctly.
- How to properly use a napkin to wipe your mouth. (No sleeves!)
- How to chew with your mouth closed.
- No elbows on the table … (except between courses)
- Never interrupt an adult when they are speaking to someone else.
- Never comment on someone’s appearance unless it’s to say something nice.
- How to write a thank you letter.
- You must always help someone in need, particularly if they are less able than you are.
- How to introduce yourself and others properly.
- Be aware of positive body language and how to show it.
- Never to call an adult by their first name unless the adult instructs them to do so.
- Always knock on a door before opening it.
- How to answer a phone politely.
- How to make eye contact when speaking to another person.
- Don’t point or stare.
- Always cover your mouth when sneezing or coughing.
- How to invite someone to join a group if they are alone.
Sources:
The 20 Etiquette Lessons Every Child Needs to Know, by Caroline Hallemann, May 17 2017
11 Best Manners to Teach Children, by Kate Randall, February 2, 2021